For your TV ambilight, might I suggest non-white coloring, perhaps in the blue hue area for female oriented TV watching, red hues for action and adventure, and green for something neither of you really wanted to watch, but settled on watching it for whatever reason
Experiment with the conversations evoked depending on the ambilight color. Just don’t tell anyone you are experimenting. At some point you will find which colors work best for your situations.
Personally, I installed a Govee Alexa-enabled TV Backlight solution and have been extremely happy (and WAF has been very high as well). It was less expensive than a lot of solutions, does not require a PC, nor a RPi, and works on anything displayed on the TV no matter the source. There’s also a few music modes which are big hits at parties (whenever we might have them again…), and other less used modes. I fully recommend that product - and have absolutely no affiliation with them - unfortunate because I’m sure I’ve sold a few people on them over the years!
They are probably using an ESP8266 with 4MB memory. The smartphone app is pretty good. Alexa integration is not fantastic though as it is similar to WLED and seems to emulate a Hue with On/Off and maybe simple color if simple color mode is selected.
However, 99% of the time it’s in TV ambilight mode, and On/Off is fine. Once I make the home automation system ever so slightly smarter so it knows the TV changes from OFF->ON and ON-> OFF, it will issue the Alexa command to turn the Govee backlight on/off as needed.
I know that is way more than you wanted to know, but thought it was a good time to suggest it - before you install something else without at least looking at how that Govee system works (available on Amazon - user reviews, videos, etc.).
I’d like to know your thoughts if you have time to look at that TV ambilight option. Much more expensive compared to something you already have. But, you can always use your setup to aim light at the ceiling above the TV, perhaps using the sound integrated usermod!